Just_Saying_Mon01/30/2012

From Oprah’s Lifeclass: Forgiveness means letting go of past hopes that didn’t happen. I believe the alternative is the bitterness of longing for a past that never was.–me

Forgiveness does not involve saying that what happened (or didn’t happen) was okay when it wasn’t okay. Saying “I forgive them” in the useal way usually carries with an implied “even though they don’t deserve it.” It creates a personal myth of moral superiority. Putting ourselves above others in that way has nothing to do with forgiveness, It’s actually a way of getting even, a way of holding on to the offense. There is no healing in that.

Forgiveness actually means letting go of the hurt. It involves recognizing that ongoing resentment hurts us more than the original offense. Most of all it means taking responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings.

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