Archive for March 2012


March 24, 2012

If you wish to see a film about a happy little elf, then I’m sure there is still plenty of seating in theatre number two.–Limony Snicket

Life’s a bit like that. Some of us get the show about a happy little elf. Many, perhaps most, of us don’t.


March 23, 2012

You’ll never get to be good at anything unless you are willing to be bad at it first.–me

The greatest enemy of learning is fear. Perfectionism, the need to do (and be) perfect, is the result of fear. Not sure when we learn this fear, but I’m sure it’s something we’ve learned rather than somthing we are born with. Infants don’t wait to make sounds untill they’ve learned to talk. Children don’t wait untill they know hot before they learn to ride a bike. Bust sometime after that the fear of making mistakes happens to most of us.


March 22, 2012

All of the true things that I am about to tell you are shameless lies.–K. Vonnegut (Cat’s Cradle)

We don’t actually have direct acces to reality. Everything we percieve is filtered through our unconscious beliefs and expectations before it reaches us. This is only the first step in the process in which our minds make up a story about what is happening and what it means. As a result, all the true things we “know” are conclusions we’ve drawn about the story we made up in our minds. If they happen to be actually true that’s pretty much a coincidence.


March 21, 2012

Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet shreds on the heel that has crushed it.–Mark Twain


March 20, 2012

The miracles of nature do not seem miracles because they are so common. If no one had ever seen a flower, even a dandelion would be the most startling event in the world.–Unknown


March 19, 2012

Only by reconciling with our own darkness can we see others as they are rather than projecting our darkness on them.–me (

I’m not talking here about learning to love your dark side, about letting it run your life. It’s already doing that anyway. The extent to which we deny or repress our dark side is the extent to which we permit it to act through us unseen. And one of the ways it acts is by causing us to dislike others who remind us of our darkness. We dislike them, we dehumanize them in our minds, which permits us to treat them as less that human. The only way to avoid this is to look at ourselves clearly, to stop pretending we are better than we truly are, to find a better way of dealing with our darkness than pretending it’s not there.


March 18, 2012

Procrastinate now. Don’t put it off.–Ellen DeGeneres

There’s probably no surer way add stress to your life than procrastination. So why do we do it so often? I havent’ thought about this enough, but one thing I know is that we get some sort of payoff. And I don’t think the payoff is about doing things we want to do rather than things we don’t. Clearly it gives the ego an illusion of control, but is that all? I don’t know.